There is simply no getting around the fact that difficult people will be in your life, but what about when they’re your boss? Or your partner? Or your most talented staff member? That’s when things get sticky for most of us. And by sticky I mean that the level of stress in our live pops the charts and we find life a lot less pleasant. What’s a reasonable person to do?
Yes, THEY are nuts. What are YOU going to do about it?
Well, let me give you the simple answer – stop being your part of the problem and take responsibility for aligning the relationship for productivity. Notice that I didn’t say “fix” the relationship? Your only job is to get to the point where the two of you get stuff done without giving each other an ulcer. That’s it.
You see, all relationships take two people and even though (giving you the benefit of the doubt) you probably ARE being the more reasonable person, if you really want to establish a positive working relationship you have to do your part. Shouldn’t they change too? Yes, but they’ll change a lot more easily if you start the process.
But what is it that get so unaligned? I mean, aren’t you doing your best? Aren’t you trying to look past their stupidity? Unreasonableness? Wrong-headedness? Of course, but after trying for a while DOING isn’t the answer and BEING is. So how do you BE in a difficult relationship in a way that the two of you can function? Here is the answer – simply get aligned on these three things:
- Intentions & Expectations
Easy peasy, right? Well, of course not. Otherwise you’d have done it already. But there is a way. Unload your baggage and notice how much easier
are to deal with. Really. Try it.