Sometimes it seems like there is no choice before us that isn’t risky. There is no “no risk” choice. Risk isn’t a choice, it’s a condition. It can feel like anxiety, starting in your tummy and rising up to agitate your heart if you let it. Sometimes when there is risk on either side, it feels like...
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INSIGHT: Don’t Brag
How can you make sure people know how great you are? It’s not bragging if you’re helping others be great too. Teach success. I get asked all the time how to talk confidently about your abilities and potential without sounding stuck up. There are several strategies, but the basic one is – if...
INSIGHT: Reframe
When we start a new year, it’s tempting to list out everything we want to change, get depressed that we’ll never change and give up. Change can be hard to imagine, so focus on reframing the present. It’s a bit of a mental trick, but it can be very effective. Whether it’s the dynamic you have with...
INSIGHT: Respite
Ever been in the eye of a hurricane? Me either, but I imagine that if I were, I’d take a moment between the panic to notice things in a new way, relax and prepare for the next onslaught. There are moments of calm in the storm, and when they don’t happen naturally, we can make them anyway. End of...
INSIGHT: Good Luck
Do you believe we make our own luck? All I know is that when I am grateful for good luck I seem to attract more of it. I believe in luck, but I also believe that luck is as much about perspective as happenstance. There’s no question that sometimes things just happen for no reason at all. When...
INSIGHT: Last Minute Success
Strategies for the finish line start at the beginning, are adjusted midway and only become possible at the end. Re-focus at the end to win. Have you ever noticed how many of your plans fall apart at the end of the project? Time is running out to get all these loose ends wrapped up and sent off for...
INSIGHT: Gratitude
Are you full? Sometimes it’s worth simply being thankful for whatever our life is full of. Whether you’re stuffed with turkey, love or work-left-undone, I hope you’re enjoying the fullness of it all today. There is so much lack in the world, let’s give “full” a little love. This isn’t just a...
INSIGHT: Happy?
Is asking yourself how happy you are a little scary? Don’t shy away from asking yourself the hard questions just because you fear the answers. I recently turned the tables on a leader-client who was worried about employee engagement in his company. I asked him how happy HE was in the company he’d...
INSIGHT: Fall
Endings are normal, natural and inevitable. Here’s a way to view your leadership efficacy – do you fight the natural end of things or take advantage of their momentum to create a new beginning? Everything has a beginning, middle and end. Sometimes these cycles are so long we forget that they will...
INSIGHT: Permission
Have you ever explored the power of permission – for yourself? For your staff? For your family? We accept things – rules, goals and boundaries – as though they are real and then they become real until we give ourselves and others permission to change them. Everyone believes things are true that...