Why worry about balancing something you don't understand? When you understand who you are, it takes a lot less energy to BE you. We spend so much energy trying to balance all the different parts work-life parts of ourselves that if we're not careful, we forget that we're not a bunch of threads at...
Do you believe that the most effective way to disagree is to agree first? Student (from a position flat on his back): “I don’t understand. I hit you hard and you took the punch! How did I end up down here?” Sensei (standing over him): “I took your energy and used it to put you where you wanted to...
Most of us squander the best part of the feedback we receive. Feedback is love, but it doesn’t always feel that way. Feedback comes to us through the filter of the one giving it. Most of the time, when we feel bad, sad or mad after a feedback session, it’s not because the person giving it applied...
Motivational theory holds that people – children and direct reports alike – pay attention to what you pay attention to. Your attention reinforces their behavior. Guess what? Your brain works the same way. Want to be more effective? Give yourself more positive strokes when you are! It’s just the...
Worried you’re “that guy”? The one that people talk about behind your back? The women and men who people talk about behind their backs are oblivious. Don’t be and you won’t be. Most of us are self-conscious about the wrong stuff. Learn to look elsewhere. We worry about whether people think we were...
What if being ground down wasn’t a demolition but a refinement? Every difficult effort holds within it opportunities that only you can turn into a better you. 2013 is here and it’s back to the grind. I don’t know about you, but my new year is taking off with a bang! All of a sudden it’s back to...
Do you see only madness ahead? Your future is what you make it, one decision at a time. It’s the last day of the second-to-last month of 2012 and we’re teetering on the edge of the holiday season. Are you headed over the brink to fall pell mell or planning a controlled decent? Your calendar...
