I am on vacation. Right now. It’s great sitting on the beach each day with the kiddos digging hole after hole. But sometimes while gazing out at the ocean I begin to worry about things in my life. I don’t want to spend my vacation worrying about anything. I want to spend my vacation enjoying myself, playing with the kids, and relaxing!
Your summer vacation is a time to release your fears. You take a break from the daily grind, leave your house, and walk away from worries.
Changing gears is challenging. With downtime comes time to think. You kick back to relax and not think about anything but then you may start worrying about paying the bills or start to feel unease about the project you left behind.
Working moms, worrying can feel like a job and you need a break from that, too. Depending on the type of fear you have here’s five tips on how to release yourself from your fears so you can take the vacation you deserve.
What are your personal goals? Did you set any at the beginning of year? If not, it’s never too late to set a few goals that excite you. If you did set goals, how’s your progress? To avoid worrying or negativity focus on what you have accomplished. What is within your control that you can start working on when you get back from vacation?
In Arianna Huffington’s latest book, The Sleep Revolution she talks about dreams incubators. Your dreams are a glimpse at your destiny. If your fears are about your future try this:
Place pen and paper by your bed. Ask your guidance in what ever is worrying you. You can write down this question then keep thinking about it while taking slow deep breaths. They key to remember your dream when you wake up is laying still when you wake up. Then slowly move to your pen and paper. If you begin to forget lay still again. It may take a few nights practice to get a clear message.
Learn How To Play Again Through Your kids
All you do is work because you’re an adult! That’s what we excel at! Well, kiddos excel at playing. Instead of sitting with fearful thoughts, get up and start digging for buried treasure with your kids. Get moving to move your focus away from your fearful thoughts.
Do Something Kid-like Without The Kids
Adult coloring books are popular for a reason! Grab one and some colored pencils and admire your creativity. Grab a fiction book and get lost in someone else’s story instead of your own. Play a competitive game of cards with your significant other and enjoy the win. You are on vacation, do something fun!
Yes, so far I’ve been suggesting to move your body and do things that are fun to get your mind off things. On the other hand though, sometimes we just need to stop in our tracks and be still. If this means that fear comes into our thoughts you can practice meditation. Do you know how to meditate? If not, check out Gabrielle Bernstein’s Miracles Now: 108 Life Changing Tools for Less Stress, More Flow, and Finding Your True Purpose where in her short chapters she shares different ways to meditate depending on what challenges you’re facing.
Face The Fear And Then Move On
View your fear from the perspective that it is a False Expectation Appearing (to be) Real (F.E.A.R.). This perspective is great for when you are facing a fear that is blocking you. Like when you are getting in your own way. When you recognize the fear as this acronym write down the fear such as, “I’m worried about my work project.” Then put it in this context: “When I get back from vacation I’m going to work my hardest on the project by working on a, b, and c. Then I’ll take it from there”. This taking of a negative fear and turning it into an actionable truth is something that you can follow through on after vacation.
Fear can ruin a good time. When you work on your emotional intelligence and recognize that what you’re experiencing is fear – that is half the battle! To help you work out your fears, come on over to the working moms forum and chat about how you are releasing your fears this summer. It’s the best vacation when you can be fully present and leave your fears behind.
If worry and fear are too-constant a companions, you may be dealing with triggers beneath the fear. Learn to detrigger your negative emotions and let your fears go.