Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the cure for the Toxic Boss. But of course, it’s not quite that easy. S/he’s a boss, after all! Sadly, this cure does not come in the form of pill, either. Toxic bosses are a disease in the workplace and corporate culture more broadly. Like most diseases toxicity has...
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INSIGHT: Expectation
One person this week is annoyed at me and the other isn’t, despite on-time delivery to both. The difference? Expectation I set with them. "Set expectations intentionally. That way you always get better results." - Click to Tweet How can two people have such different experiences of the same...
INSIGHT: Pride vs. PRIDE
There is power in language, but only if you look beneath the words themselves. Sometimes the words don’t matter, but the meaning does. I recently had someone lash out at me because of something I said – well, actually it was because of something I didn’t say. In the ensuing exchange it became...
INSIGHT: Beginnings
Are you looking forwards or backwards? Beginnings only happen when the past is behind you. - Click To Tweet As the new year gears up, I’ve been thinking a lot about what deserves my energy this year. I hope you have too. January is a special time that gives us the ability to focus on new...
INSIGHT: Gratitude Part Deux
Still stuffed? I am! When gratitude fills me, I’m so much better at my jobs – all of them. Yes, I’m still a little full of too much family and food, but that’s ok, because I’m also stuffed full of gratitude – for you and for all the wonderful people who are helping me, themselves and our world by...
INSIGHT: Make Time Your Friend
Worried or stressed about something? Give yourself permission to feel it – or not – for a period of time. And then let it go. We’re used to thinking of time as our enemy, but we can make it our friend if we give ourselves permission to do so. Time is funny. There never seems enough of it, but the...
INSIGHT: Choose Your Life
Roadblocks. Stupidity. Bureaucracy. Murphy. Pollen. There are so many "good" reasons to stop banging our heads against life... Why don't we? Last Monday I wasn't sure I was going to survive this week. My schedule looked like a train wreck. I had a hundred reasons to cop out of meetings, calls,...
INSIGHT: When Analysis Becomes Paralysis
Have you ever noticed how unmade decisions can gang up on you and hold you down? INSIGHT: Analysis has it’s limits. Know where they are. If you’re ever feeling powerless, make a few decisions. Watch how your INpower meter pops up. Choice is power so when you need a power boost, make a choice. But...
INSIGHT: Flow
Wow. Friday already? Where did the week go? When things are moving “too fast” ask yourself if you’re rushing or flowing. Flow is better. I asked for a lot and I got it! Woot! The dog caught the bus and now it’s time to run. Despite the mixed metaphors, I’ve noticed something about this...
INSIGHT: Relationship Vision
What if everyone you interacted with on a regular basis was in 100% agreement with you on what you were trying to do together? Reaching agreement doesn't always mean that people agree with you. How much energy do you spend trying to get others to agree with you? A huge percentage of our time goes...