Sponsor vs. Mentor – 3 Tips for Attracting a Sponsor

by | Dec 14, 2023 | Career Development, Coaching Advice, Mentoring

Is “Executive Sponsor” is the New “Mentor” for Women Leaders? The missing piece in women’s advancement strategies into leadership? Mentorship helps us be effective, but it’s not as helpful at helping us get a job as sponsorship is. Dana takes a look at what is means to have a sponsor vs. a mentor and give some practical advice for how to earn a sponsor’s support. ~ InPower Editors
 
For years, mentoring has been how many companies and professional associations have hoped to close the leadership gender gap, in which women barely achieve 20% of the C-Suite slots and even less at the board level despite being half the entry-level workforce.  Every leader points to mentors along the way as key to their success, so this focus on mentoring for women makes sense – or does it?

Research now tells us that while women are mentored more than men, they don’t get promoted as much, or see as many salary increases, because of it. It turns out that while mentors do help us learn to be more effective, it’s often “sponsors” who actually help us get hired at the next pay grade.

So what’s the difference between a mentor and a sponsor?

Mentors give us advice, counsel and strategies to learn the ropes we haven’t learned yet. Mentors can learn from us too. Mentorship is a coaching and support relationship. Sponsors, by contrast, go to bat for us, put our name in the hat for new assignments and – this is the important part – have some of their own personal brand equity and credibility riding on our success. They ask others to believe in us. Mentors can also be sponsors, but they’re not the same.

While mentorship is an explicit and usually personal relationship, not everyone knows who sponsored them behind the scenes. You don’t always have close personal relationships with sponsors like you do with mentors. Quite often, they know you through results, performance and presentations. They like the cut of your jib, believe when you’re successful you’ll be a good ally for them and – frankly – make them look good for believing in you early on.

How do you get an executive sponsor?

First of all you don’t “get” a sponsor; you “earn” a sponsor. You have to do good work and make sure people who can sponsor you know about it. I believe this is one of the primary reasons women are not sponsored as often as men, because women too often struggle to take credit for their success. But there is more to attracting the attention of a sponsor than just doing your job, you need to stand out among your peers in other ways too. Here are three key career strategies you can use to get the attention of a sponsor.

Do “hard.”

Take on the big challenges and succeed. This means going out of your comfort zone regularly and achieving things that advance the goals of the organization.

Own your success.

Talk about your wins so people know what to give you credit for. Not comfortable bragging? Then don’t. Teach others what you did to succeed, and make sure they know how you’ve successfully put your own ideas into practice.

Take a stand.

Promote a big idea that can move the business forward and learn how not to back down when you stimulate a vigorous debate. Learn to stand up for your ideas even in the face of opposition. Just as importantly, learn how not to fall on your own sword so you can negotiate with others for a big idea win-win.

All three of these strategies will get the attention of potential sponsors, but the latter one – taking a stand – will attract true allies who think like you do, and respect you even if they don’t. This is a way to leverage thought leadership – traditionally reserved for external public relations efforts – to boost your own career internal to an organization. In this age of social media, it’s never been easier to become a thought leader and capture the attention of sponsors internally and externally both.

Attracting an executive sponsor requires a sustained effort to do good work in ways that produce results and help you stand out from your peers. It’s not about being better than they are, it’s about being your best you. There are many small things you can do, in meetings, conversations and big projects to accomplish this and get noticed. Set your intention to do it!

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Dana Theus

Dana Theus

Dana Theus is an executive coach specializing in helping you activate your highest potential to succeed and to shine. With her support emerging and established leaders, especially women, take powerful, high-road shortcuts to developing their authentic leadership style and discovering new levels of confidence and impact. Dana has worked for Fortune 50 companies, entrepreneurial tech startups, government and military agencies and non-profits and she has taught graduate-level courses for several Universities. learn more

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