What does it mean to “hold space” for someone (or something?) It’s a skill to apply to many things, but it always takes energy. What are you holding space for right now? Is it worth the energy you’re giving it? I first learned the term “holding space” as a gift that we give to others when we...
Sometimes we catch flack for shifting our style to adjust to circumstances. [Tweet "Better to shift and succeed than stand and fail… unless failure is the lesson you need. via @DanaTheus"] The truth is that sometimes it’s good to be flexible and adapt and sometimes you need to stand strong. You...
How many choices do you really make freely? As though you truly had an option? Notice how often you feel like you don’t have a choice and then ask yourself how you’d think about it differently if you did. Act as though you do. Because you do. We fight for freedom of choice and then take it...
What you do when someone provokes you determines everything to come. Punch back, and you’re in a fight. Recently someone provoked me. I don’t think they actually meant to pick a fight with me, but for a moment I felt punched in the gut and saw red. I almost punched back and escalated the exchange...
“Change is hard.” “Nobody likes change.” These truisms seem self-evident in our society today, but I don’t believe they’re true. I believe that people love change, when they see good things on the other side of it. The problem is that humans are often more eager to believe the bad, the...
Sometimes it seems like there is no choice before us that isn’t risky. There is no “no risk” choice. Risk isn’t a choice, it’s a condition. It can feel like anxiety, starting in your tummy and rising up to agitate your heart if you let it. Sometimes when there is risk on either side, it feels like...
We all know mentors can help us succeed, but did you know that in my hundreds of CEO interviews I’ve only run into ONE person who said she didn’t have any? Mentors don’t just help us, they (along with Sponsors) are often the crucial difference in our careers. Hang on. Where do mentors learn to be...
How can you make sure people know how great you are? It’s not bragging if you’re helping others be great too. Teach success. I get asked all the time how to talk confidently about your abilities and potential without sounding stuck up. There are several strategies, but the basic one is – if...
A few nights ago I wrote a brilliant piece. Just brilliant. I was so proud. I sent it off for comment, so sure I’d get back kudos. What came back an hour before I went to bed was a suggestion to completely reframe it. *Sigh* After a momentary whine, I did my “perspective trick” and looked at my...
Do you ever worry about where you are? Where the other person is? In the argument, the process or the project? Where you are is less important than how far apart you are. In my experience most of us spend a lot of energy worrying about where we're at, and not enough strategizing about what space...
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