Happiness isn’t just about laughing. Science is telling us amazing things about what lies in our world and in ourselves. And the stuff inside us is sometimes so “duh” you just have to trust your instincts. According to preeminent thought leader, Dr. Martin Seligman, psychology is just now...
Ever wonder when to push yourself and when to go with the flow? “Going with the flow” comes in two flavors: relaxed and full-bore. Both can get you where you need to go. I once had a guru tell me that it didn’t matter which path I took, how much I stressed or how hard I worked, I was going to...
Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself with others? No matter how much more lucky “they” are, they’re probably not as rich, happy or successful as you think they are. Most of us know the downsides of comparing ourselves with others, but we do it anyway. We look at the people who got the...
So many times it seems as though our efforts to produce change are producing nothing instead. Look under the surface and see what you see. When nothing’s happening, plenty can be happening out of sight. Movie magic can make us want to see change in our lives and in our work as though from the tip...
The vacation, the weekend, the well-deserved break is on the horizon. You can almost touch it. What do you do now? Free yourself to enjoy time off by putting things in order before you leave. I’m about to take a week off (hooray!). So today and this weekend I’ll be buckling down and working my...
Have you ever achieved perfect balance at high speed? Centering isn’t about achieving balance – it’s about keeping it. I used to love to make pottery. This summer while packing for my impending move I discovered my old pottery wheel, and along with it a rather floppy pot that was my first...
When someone blows up at you, is your first thought, “What did I do?” or is it “What’s with them?” Relationships always take two. Give others responsibility for their half and take the other half for yourself. Only your half. This week someone blew up at me unexpectedly. After the fact I...
Press send too quickly. React with your gut. Let your buttons get punched. Speak without thinking. Do something hurtful. Oops. It's not what you say or do but how you are with the possibility of mistakes that matters. Everyone says and does things they regret, sometimes the moment they say...
Does practice make perfect? No. But that’s not a reason to skip it! Why do we think we should get it right the first time? Without practice, we’d never get feedback and without feedback we’d never know our impact on the world. Without knowing our impact on the world, we could never adjust...
No, this isn’t a Nike ad. Somewhere in between “I know” and “I don’t know” is where we discover our own personal line between success and failure. It’s good to know your strengths and weaknesses and one of mine is living in the Stretch Zone. You know, the place between “I’m certain I can do that...
